I have been receiving an increasing number of inquiries about “will I be happy, will I be rich” if I marry Susie, Sally . . . ? Guys, I don’t have a crystal ball when it comes to choice of spouse. All I can tell you are the qualities of a spouse that contributed to millionaires’ successful marriages. The large majority (86%) of male millionaires report that “being unselfish” is a major contributor. Also, most of these millionaires tell me that their wives were raised in a loving, stable and nurturing environment. Acute jealousy and envy of the consumption habits of the so-called rich kids were generally not part of their early socialization process. Therefore, today they are not driven by the need to hyperconsume to overcompensate for “humble beginnings.”
As I stated in the chapter “Choice of Spouse” from The Millionaire Mind:
The typical millionaire couple has been together for nearly thirty years and their bond tends to be permanent as well as economically productive. . . . ask the husband or wife to explain their household’s productivity . . . . Each gives substantial credit to the other.
For every 100 millionaires who say that having a supportive spouse was not important in explaining their economic success, there are 1,317 who indicate their spouse was important. Of the 100 who did not give credit to their spouse, 22 were never married and 23 were either divorced or separated. That leaves only 55 in 1,317 [4.2%] who believed that their spouse did not play an important role in their economic success.